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Social apathy

For the past few months I have found all possible excuses to miss my various guild meetings and now it's been ages since I've seen any of my friends. Why? I really don't know. There isn't a real reason, certainly not a good one. I've been a little blue without knowing why and lazy about doing anything remotely social. No gatherings at my house, no regular guild events, no nothing.

I am starting to wonder if having a rich online life has something to do with my real life laziness. I hope that's not it; that would be BADTM. Whatever the reason, all I want to do is curl up on the sofa and knit.

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I know exactly how you feel. I often feel like that, to the point I don't even want to answer the phone, but then other times the thought of staying in really gets to me and I have to go out. Hope you're feeling better soon.

Here is my theory: knitting produces an alpha ryhthm in the brain, something like meditation. The brain chemicals released are similar to those released by opiates. In other words - it is addictive and makes you feel good. To the exclusion of wanting or needing many other things that once contributed to your sense of well-being.

I could go on and on, expanding this theory, but maybe others have something to say on this subject.

Although communicating on line is a valid form of communication and, let's face it, it's fun, I don't really think that it's the reason that any of us decide to take a hiatus from social gatherings.

Getting together is work! I think about this same thing, and often don't go these days. It's just to hard to socialize when you're tired, and after a while, you lose contact and feel awkward when you try to reestablish it.

Bottom line, though, is that I - for one - miss you and hope that one of us is up to initiating something soon (and I am not hinting that it has to be you), or maybe someday, we'll both have the time and energy to appear at the same meeting at the same time.

I can understand your feelings. I sometimes wonder because people simply said that knitting makes people feel relaxed when I said I spent most of my free time on knitting. I agree with it but I often noticed myself sitting in front of PC for a long time or knitting all day long and getting unsociable more and more.. I was disappointed at myself.

Without the internet knitting socialization, I'd be without any for my knitting at all. I used to be in a group for my stitching in NYC, but here, I'm not. I also have been finding that knitting is more for me than any other activity, so I feel like keeping it inside and to myself.
Nothing wrong with enjoying some time alone doing something you love. Although, I think if you are posting this, somewhere in there, you're starting to miss your friends and probably should attend 1 meeting at some point :) or have someone over for tea.

Golly, you're starting to sound like me. :-\ But I think your friends would really like to see you. *grin*

Sounds as though you're hibernating (suppose that should be aestivating) dreaming of a time when it will be cold enough to wear wool again. Maybe that's when you'll feel more like getting out and about. By the way, you've inspired this evening's meal: I spotted some wonderfully dark pasta made in the health Store and saw that it was made of farro, which made me think "Francesca!"

It is bubbling away on the stove and Graham has made a rich sauce of tomato, mushroom, aubergine and basil. I'll raise my glass to you as we dine.

I think that life is a balance - alternating periods of high energy with times of doing very little. Hopefully this is just a quiet time for you. Try not to feel guilty about it, just enjoy some "me" time. When you're ready, you'll enjoy your meetings and get togethers more.

I hope that you'll feel better soon. This online friend is wishing all the best for you.

I go through non-socialization stages also. I enjoyed reading everyone's comments here. Last week I actually found some time to be more social. I value my time at home, but I also value my time with friends. Sometimes the time with friends is more valuable when we're together less often.

Ene is gorgeous and that sweet innocent kitty could not have been responsible for colorful Italian verbage, could he? *wink*

I usually just look at your blog and smile every time I see your beautiful work. Now I see how pretty you are too! Yes, keep up the lace knitting. It's my favorite too.

I totally know how you feel! Most days all I want to do is curl up with the baby on my lap and a book and some knitting, I'm ready for fall, so I can relax outside with the baby, a book, and some knitting :)

I've been lurking here for a few weeks now. I know exactly how you feel because I go through periods of being anti-social at regular intervals. I've stopped feeling guilty about it because I know that it will pass. It's all part of a well-balanced life, I figure. By the way, your lace shawls are absolutely beautiful and you've inspired me to give lace another shot.

And I thought it was just me! It's hard getting out there and interacting with people, especially in the summer when everyone is either on holiday or going to some other social event, too. It's okay; it's just a phase.

The underlying argument here is that it is "bad" not to want to see people. I'm not sure I buy into that.
I get much more knitting done when I'm not with a group of knitters since we're inclined to blab.
Hope all is well.